#Bodyposi and Self Love

"Hey, so I saw all of this really rude and unnecessary drama about the picture you posted with your "no-hips" and I just wanna know how u got around it to being comfortable with your body? Because I have kinda the same problem with myself and it's a really big insecurity and idk how to get over it... Society and its views just fuck me up so badly..."

Lately, I've been receiving a large amount of messages like this from girls on social media asking me for advice on loving themselves and accepting their bodies. Then there are messages from people thanking me, saying that I've inspired them to love and accept themselves. Either way, it makes me feel amazing that I can be a part of their self love journey.

I've been called a hoe, slut, whore, skank, and whatever else you can think of, since I was in middle school. It's solely because I have big boobs and I'm comfortable about it and comfortable with my body. But I wasn't always this comfortable... I hated my body up until a couple years ago. I wore hoodies and pulled my tank tops up every two minutes so that I wouldn't have any cleavage and I always wore long shirts or sweaters to cover my hips and butt. I felt like I always had to hide my body. But one day, I kid you not, I woke up and was like "why the fuck do I care what people think?" That's when I realized that I genuinely do not care what people think about me, how they see me, or how they think I see myself. That's also when I started posting revealing photos marked with either "#bodyposi" or a caption insinuating my self love, and it is when all hell broke loose. *snickers*

I posted a photo of my boobs a few months ago and I've never been called a hoe so many times in my life. Then recently, I posted a photo of me in panties holding my boobs up, saying that I had no hips, and I've never received so much hate. It was disgusting reading the comments and I'm so happy that I'm passed the point in my life where I was sensitive to comments people made about me. People fail to realize that everything I do is a conscientious decision that I choose to make. I don't post the photos that I do in hopes of receiving attention, upsetting people, impressing people, or anything else. I do it for me. I do it because I love myself, I love my body, and I do know my worth. I'm confident in myself and there's no other hidden agenda or me wanting praise from other people so that I can accept myself. It took me years to genuinely love myself and now I feel unstoppable. People can talk all the shit that they want, but I believe they're showing their own insecurity by trying to bring me down. At the end of the day, my opinion and perception about myself and my body is the only one that matters. 

I think that the worst part about all of the negativity on the #bodyposi movement is that most of the hate comes from other women. I feel like we should be trying to empower one another instead of trying to tear each other down. When we call each other out of our name, it's giving men the go to call us those same names and think that it's okay. It's not. Not all, but so many men don't understand that the amount of skin a woman shows does not determine their self worth, intelligence, etc. People will comment "you don't have to do this," but we can? So we will. 

Honestly, all you need to do is love and accept yourself. At the end of the day, you are all that you have. That's why your opinion of yourself is the most important and the only one that matters. People can be ignorant and rude, but your confidence and understanding of your self worth will act like a shield to every single negative comment. 

The human body is a piece of art. Male, female, whatever you classify yourself as, or whatever you don't classify yourself as, we're all art. People will always misconstrue a persons intentions, but it's your life and your body. 

Unapologetically be yourself at all times.